Ten Tips to Improve Your Self-Esteem
best way to improve your life and earn the respect of others is to
improve your self-esteem. This is not a very difficult task. All that
it needs is good guidance. Here are ten tips that can happen when you
improve your self--esteem.
1. You should
surround yourself with people who are positive and supportive, and shun
friends who are cynical and negative. This will generate a huge swell
of positive feelings in you. You will respect yourself more, and your
self-esteem will grow.
2. You should be
clear about what you want to achieve in life. Set goals, and work for
their achievement. To make your task easier, break your main goal into
several smaller goals which are relatively easier to achieve. This will
make the task of reaching your main goals seem easier. It will also
give you a feeling of satisfaction whenever you achieve one of the
3. Always be
positive about yourself and keep reminding yourself about your good
qualities, your accomplishments and how you help your family, friends,
others and yourself. Don't make the mistake of brooding over negative
things, and never put yourself down.
4. Develop the
ability to accept criticism about yourself, without getting upset or
defensive. This will help you eliminate your weaknesses one by one.
However, make sure that the criticism is constructive. Don't allow
yourself to be overwhelmed by criticism that is cynical or meant to
lower your self-esteem. This will be a great mistake, and do
irreparable damage to your self-esteem.
5. We all need to
accept the fact that we will fail from time to time. We should not let
it get us down or to have too much of a negative effect on us. We
should think that we have not been successful this time and that we
will succeed the next time. This will help us to pull ourselves
together and move on. Such an attitude will help us overcome the most
6. Never compare
yourself with others. This is the easiest way to feel inferior and lose
self-esteem. It is much better to rate yourself on your achievements.
Such an approach will give you self-confidence. At the same time it
will make you feel better when dealing with your peer group.
7. Never put
yourself down. Failures are like parasites. If you allow them to grow
they will eat away your self-confidence, self-respect and self-esteem.
The best is to push negative thoughts out of your mind, if you want
others to treat you with respect. This can only happen when you project
a positive exterior, even in most adverse situations. Make it a point
to filter out all self-criticism.
8. Don't give in to
bullies in your place of work or in your personal life. You must learn
to stand up to them. This can only happen if you are assertive about
your rights. Of course, this does not mean that you should pick up
physical battles to make your point. On the contrary, you should
exercise restraint and make your point in a dignified manner. This will
not only make others treat you with respect but also increase your
9. You may be
self-conscious and because of this you may avoid talking to groups of
people. Try to approach groups of people and introduce yourself to
them. Ask them questions about themselves and try to be genuinely
interested in the answers. Listen carefully and attentively to what
they say and respond to show your interest. Interacting with people
will make you feel more relaxed. You will realize that it is easy to
speak to groups of people and to relax by concentrating on what others
are saying, rather than on yourself.
Self-esteem is also dependent upon the felling of well-being. A lazy
person or a poorly groomed person will always feel inferior to a
confident, smart individual. So, you need to take good care of your
body. Remember, a healthy body is essential for a healthy mind.